The answer lies within our bodies.

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I was browsing through Amazon, ordering books for myself as a birthday gift. I picked two books suggested by my besties, one of which happened to be Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.

I am and will always be grateful for that moment.

Reading has been a part of who I am and the books have shaped my perspective about life and the world we inhabit. This book drove home the meaning of “a book can change your life.” I sat my 9-year-old daughter down and explained some concepts from the book. …


Nobel Prize Winner, Daniel Kahneman’s book Thinking, Fast and Slow brought to light concepts that explain it.

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Representation matters.

I and my daughter love to discuss ideas and concepts and the world in general. During one of our conversations, I decided to try an experiment I had read about.

I called out a profession, and she responded with the gender. It was an eye-opening exercise for both of us. We are always going on about equality in our house. We read books about gender equality, watch inspiring movies and discuss points of view. She, still associated some professions with a specific gender.

My daughter was more surprised than I was. …


It is ok. We are humans. We have emotions.

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Life happens. Situations happen. People happen.

Sometimes, there isn’t much we can do about it.

I can say this with a Zen mind now because the situation is not happening as I write.

A few days ago, Zen was not what I was feeling. Zombie was more like it. I knew I was absorbing other people’s emotions and word vomit. As if that was not enough, I was getting myself into a knot trying to figure out why I couldn’t be Zen.

Why was I not able to disconnect myself? (I knew the situation was just that, a situation)
Why was I not able to be calm…


Unpopular opinion alert. Use the damn screen.

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Dear Parents,

Let’s not forget that we are living through a pandemic, as we have done for the past 2ish years.

In many parts of the world like in India, the kids have not gone back to school. In Melbourne, they are home every few weeks with our lockdowns.

We are living a life that we did not imagine in our wildest dreams. Our wildest dreams were probably inhabited by zombies, aliens, and wars. A virus turning our worlds upside down is not something most of us thought about.

This is life.

The quotes that highlight the uncertainty of life, never drove…


We deserve to feel and embrace the magic of life.

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I just got off YouTube watching Elizabeth Gilbert talk. It is an old interview from when her book “Big Magic” was released.

Big Magic, is the most beautiful and magical book I have read. As a writer, that book spoke to my soul. I bought that book during a vacation and couldn’t keep it down. I woke up before everyone else to get through few magical pages of that book.

As I was listening to her today, those same feelings came back. Her voice, perspective, love for her craft, and outlook towards life made me feel calm from within.

This…


Boundaries are wrapped up in all kinds of biases.

We are born into a family.
That family has relationships.
We have siblings and cousins.
We grow up with neighbors.
We go to school. Interact with teachers and peers.
We make friends.
We have romantic relationships.
We get married. And inherit an equally big set of extended family and friends akin to when we were born.

The variables change. But more or less all of us have similar relationships.

Our comfort in setting boundaries varies according to the relationship. …


I figured out the why to beat it.

Have you ever wondered why you snooze no matter how determined you are to wake up as soon as the alarm goes off?

I have. For years.

2 books made me realize I had conditioned my brain to snooze the alarm. Snoozing was now a habit. It had got nothing to do with waking up or sleeping in.

The act of hitting the snooze button when it went off, was the habit I created.

The probability that you will wake up, once you break the habit of snoozing is high. I can testify.

The 2 Parts of Our Brain

Let me start with 2 concepts I…


What does your contribution to the world look like?

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What is your legacy towards a more respectful society?

Yesterday, I was aghast at the news of Afghanistan. I took an hour off from work and just sat on my chair, tears rolling down my eyes. I am not from Afghanistan. I know no one personally from Afghanistan. But I could not stop feeling helpless coupled with a sense of fear for the women and children.

My husband stopped me and said, “Raji, this is not the only war happening in the world. Why is this bothering you so much?”.

I did not have an answer.

All I felt was…

Raji Pillay

I bring my love for books, coffee, technology and life in general to my writing. Blockchain has caught my fancy and I am exploring it as I write.

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